The way to true personality

The way to true personality does not lead through the formation of a technique of the will, a decomposition of life into a series of separate, cramped acts…It does not lead through a petty decomposition of God’s commandments into innumerable rules dominating every situation in life from the outside. The way to true personality leads rather through the opening of oneself in the depths, the exposing of oneself to the sun of God…It implies making room in oneself for the life implanted in us by baptism, giving God the opportunity to speak in us, ‘watching’ before the Lord. It means especially the clear understanding that we are impotent to form Christ in our soul by our own efforts, but that the Lord must transform us; that we cannot save our soul by our own power, but only by the power of Christ. It requires prayer for the right thoughts and decisions, prayer for love, grasping the fact that our task is only a free cooperation with grace, letting ourselves be transformed by God.

Dietrich von Hildebrand

Liturgy and Personality

Katie van Schaijik

To be fully human is to be more than human

Dec. 1, 2013, at 8:31am

Making my way through Pope Francis' Apostolic Exhortation, I come across passage after passage that lifts my personalist heart. Here is just one:

We become fully human when we become more than human, when we let God bring us beyond ourselves in order to attain the fullest truth of our being. 

This is the kernel of the mystery of our being-as-persons. The roots of our being lie beyond ourselves, in God. The fulfillment of our being lies in God, through others.

Devra Torres

Q & A with Jacques Philippe

Nov. 29, 2013, at 11:01am

A recent gathering with Jacques Philippe ended with a question-and-answer session. One question especially caught my attention.  I’m certain this participant spoke for large numbers of us.  How, she wanted to know, are we supposed to reconcile “Accept your failures” with “Be perfect”?

This conundrum is a stumbling block to many—they’d like to take to heart the encouraging words of people like Fr. Jacques and Pope Francis, who insist that we can enjoy peace and an unshakeable interior freedom despite our weakness and moral failures.  But just how do you do that, without shrugging off divine and moral law--in this case, a clear directive, from the lips of Christ Himself, to "be perfect"?

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Devra Torres

Jacques Philippe in Ann Arbor, Part Two

Nov. 21, 2013, at 8:51pm

Jacques Philippe, author of Interior Freedom, Searching for and Maintaining Peace, Time for God, and several other life-changing books, was in town last week.

Here he is, signing autographs in the gym!

 Below are some of his thoughts (reconstructed from my notes) on living in the present moment.  (You'll have to imagine the endearing accent and the occasional pauses to laugh happily whenever he cracked himself up. I got the sense that years of being a spiritual director give a person a lively sense of how ridiculous human beings can be, as well as an enduring compassion.) 

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Living in the present moment means entrusting the past to God’s mercy, the future to

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Devra Torres

Jacques Philippe in Ann Arbor(!)

Nov. 17, 2013, at 11:11pm

After all my criticism of Eugenio Sclafari, who talked to the Pope without taking notes or recording the conversation and then published the results as an “interview,” I find myself doing something just a little bit  similar.

What you are about to read is based on a bunch of notes scribbled at breakneck speed—and since I don’t understand the speaker’s native French, they’re based on a simultaneous translation.   It wasn’t a conversation, but a series of talks.  The speaker is Jacques Philippe, who, astonishingly enough, addressed us at my parish, Christ the King,

ten minutes away from my house, this weekend.  He was the centerpiece of our parish’s women’s retreat.  The theme was

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Katie van Schaijik

The personalism of Pope John XXIII

Nov. 15, 2013, at 4:01am

While in Rome last month, we picked up a book by Thomas Cahill: Pope John XXIII, A LIfe.

Its first pages include two quotations that jump right out at a personalist. The first is by the French theologian Yves Congar about the late Pope: "He loved people more than power."

The second is from the Pope's own remarks at the opening of Vatican II [my emphasis]:

In the daily exercise of our pastoral ministry—and much to our sorrow—we must sometimes listen to those who, consumed with zeal, have scant judgment or balance...To such ones the modern world is nothing but betrayal and ruin. They claim that this age is far worse than previous ages, and they rant on as if they had learned nothing at all

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Devra Torres

Self Esteem without Selfishness: Now Available!

Nov. 11, 2013, at 1:58pm

The book I translated two summers ago (and wrote about here) is finally available, from Scepter, as both a "real" book and an ebook.    In English, it's called Self-Esteem Without Selfishness: Increasing Your Capacity for Love and can be ordered here (or, as they say, wherever fine books are sold).  Much wisdom from Dietrich von Hildebrand, Edith Stein, C. S. Lewis, and other luminaries, and many valuable, original, and strikingly practical insights from the author, Fr. Michel Esparza.

And more good news: it looks like the English translation will now be used as the basis for a Dutch edition! 

Devra Torres

The Wide-Awake Life

Nov. 10, 2013, at 1:29am

I fully expected to spend this decade in a state of bitterly nostalgic melancholy.  I had planned to squander it sitting helplessly by as my babies all got older, lamenting my inability to make them stop.

 I’ve been happily surprised to find it hasn’t been like that at all (or only occasionally). 

Maybe I speak too soon: my youngest is only five, still happy to sit on my lap and listen to “Big Y, little y, yawning yellow yak. Young Yolanda Yorgensen is yelling on his back.”  I reserve the right to eat my words when the day comes that he’s too cool for such things.

But I find myself unexpectedly content to be enjoying my eight children right now, precisely at their present ages.  It’s not

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Devra Torres

Proselytism vs. Evangelism: Round Two

Nov. 3, 2013, at 6:19pm

Last week, we talked about Pope Franics' dismissal of proselytism as “solemn nonsense.”  Many misunderstood.  They fell into three groups:

  • Anti-Catholics, crowing, “See!  Even your Pope says you should keep quiet about religion!”
  • Serious but over-hasty Catholics, gasping: “What a scandal!  Our Pope says we should keep quiet about religion!”
  • Easy-chair Catholics, sighing,

“What a relief!  Our Pope says we can keep quiet about religion!  No more uncomfortable conversations about faith and morality!  We’re called to sit back, make a reasonable attempt to be pleasant, and watch as the vast throngs (who will inevitably notice how pleasant we’ve become) spontaneously sign up for

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Marie Meaney

When Faith becomes Ideology

Oct. 28, 2013, at 3:52am


To speak about faith becoming an ideology seems to be a contradiction in terms, at least to the faithful Catholic. For ideology is a construction, a system covering up and closing one off from reality while giving the false impression of having an explanation for everything; faith, however, is based on truth as revealed by God and is also accessible to reason (in contrast, any kind of belief is called an “ideology” these days, the underlying supposition being that truth cannot be known anyway).  Isn’t faith a gift from God, an infusion of the Holy Spirit, one of the three theological virtues, based on the revelation of the Most High which therefore cannot be false? Revelation itself

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Devra Torres

Solemn Nonsense: A How-To Guide

Oct. 25, 2013, at 12:34pm

In a recent interview, the story goes, Pope Francis dismissed proselytism as “solemn nonsense.” 

That “interview,” it turned out, was an 89-year-old atheist’s after-the-fact reconstruction of his recollection of a conversation he recorded with neither gizmo nor even pen and paper. A grain of salt is clearly indicated.

But suppose the Pope did say this, or something like it?  Has the New Evangelization been declared obsolete and recalled, like an old-fashioned car seat?  Have we al been ordered to convert to indifferentism?

No, not by a long shot.  Alarmed parties are directed to Pope Emeritus Benedict, no fan of the dictatorship of relativism, who has said that the Church grows not by

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Katie van Schaijik

Being in the heart of the church

Oct. 23, 2013, at 10:42am

Last night friends Joseph and Marie Cabaud Meaney hosted us for a lovely dinner at their home outside of Rome. It was so wonderful to see familiar faces, and to feel their goodness and friendship. Joseph works for Human Life International. Marie studied with us in Liechtenstein, and taught for awhile with Jules at Villanova. She's an expert on Simone Weil, and writes for us sometimes.  Her father and mother were in the von Hildebrand circle in NYC. I wish I had thought to take a picture!

We got back to our apartment late. Then my alarm went off at 6:15. This is not normal for me. A cup of coffee, and Jules and I were off on bicycles through the still-dark streets of Rome, letting the boys

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Kate Whittaker Cousino

Gratitude and Joy

Oct. 16, 2013, at 7:40am

I read Manalive by G.K. Chesterton for the first time last week, and recognized in it a theme that has been on my mind lately. A character says of the protagonist, Innocent Smith

It is just because he does not want to steal, because he does not covet his neighbour's goods, that he has captured the trick (oh, how we all long for it!), the trick of coveting his own goods. It is just because he does not want to commit adultery that he achieves the romance of sex; it is just because he loves one wife that he has a hundred honeymoons.

It occurred to me that this is a wonderful description of gratitude. Innocent Smith has “captured the trick…of coveting his own goods,” and it has obviously

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Katie van Schaijik

On owning and not owning our property

Oct. 14, 2013, at 6:44am

One of the sharpest differences between the political left and right is their respective views of private property. For the (extreme) left, it's the root of social evil, the cause of social conflict. For the (extreme) right it's sacred and absolute.

For the Church, of course, it's neither/nor.

Just as we are, as individuals, radically our own, and yet, almost constituted by our relation to others and fulfilled only by making a sincere gift of ourselves in love, our property both belongs to us and is destined for others.

This came home to me in a new way visiting some of the great English estates this month. We toured Alnwick Castle, ancient seat of the Dukes of Northumberland.

Its library

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Katie van Schaijik

The birthplace of Dietrich von Hildebrand

Oct. 12, 2013, at 11:26am

October 12th is Dietrich von Hildebrand's birthday. Yesterday, Jules and I visited the Florentine villa where he was born in 1889. The imposing home—a former convent called San Francesco—is still owned by nieces and nephews of von Hildebrand's, who rent it out to foreigners.

Outside on the gate you can see a relief of Adolf von Hildebrand, the renown German sculptor, Dietrich's father.  

As we were peering eagerly though the fence, an attractive and friendly-looking youngish woman came out. We asked her whether we might go in.  She—plainly an American—said, kindly, "I'm sorry; it's private." I told her we are devotees of the philosopher Dietrich von Hildebrand, and that we'd spent a

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Devra Torres

Opening Wide the Doors of the Field Hospital

Oct. 9, 2013, at 12:30am

I’ve been reading Calah Alexander lately, and I'm hooked.

She makes a point in a recent blog post which cleared something up for me.

Here’s the conundrum: How do you convey the Good News to people who don’t believe in sin?  If they don’t think there’s any such thing, what exactly are you offering salvation from?  You can’t very well walk up to someone who rejects the whole premise and announce, “Guess what?!  Good news! Your sins are forgiven!” 

As John Paul II noted repeatedly

we don’t just lack repentence; we lack even a “sense of sin”—the sense that there’s something to repent of. 

Janet Smith runs into the same problem, as she explains in Are We Obsessed?, at First Things:


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Devra Torres

Towards a Spirituality of Unknown Variables

Oct. 1, 2013, at 8:22pm

A few days ago, this improvised prayer was going around facebook (where I do much of my philosophical research):

Heavenly Father, Help us remember that the jerk who cut us off in traffic last night is a single mother who worked nine hours that day and is rushing home to cook dinner, help with homework, do the laundry and spend a few precious moments with her children. …

Remind us, Lord, that the scary looking bum, begging for money in the same spot every day (who really ought to get a job!) is a slave to addictions that we can only imagine in our worst nightmares.

Help us to remember that the old couple walking annoyingly slow[ly] through the store aisles and blocking our shopping

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Katie van Schaijik

The ferocity of goodness

Oct. 1, 2013, at 7:46am

I usually have an audio book playing low beside me during the night. Improbable as it may sound to those unafflicted with insomnia issues, I find it helps me sleep. My favorite is Whittaker Chambers' Witness. The narrator has a clear, calm, steady voice, and the content of the book is worth pondering and re-pondering.

Last night, during a period of wakefulness, a particular passage leaped out at me afresh.

At this point in the narrative, Chambers is around 40 years old. He has left the Communist party and embraced Quakerism. Living for the first time a conscious and discipled religious existence, he experiences a human completeness that had eluded him to that point. Looking around him, he

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Devra Torres

A Problem of Translation?

Sep. 24, 2013, at 10:25pm

When my husband mentions that he teaches business ethics, one occasional comeback is, “Isn’t that an oxymoron?”

In fact, it’s not.  Business is not an intrinsic evil.  And, as the Occupy movement unintentionally made clear, it’s incoherent to bash corporations in general while gobbling up the goods and services they offer so as to enhance your anti-business hipster chic.

But teaching ethics to MBA types has its challenges.  It’s not that they can’t understand truths about good and evil, virtue and vice.  It’s just that they can’t hear those truths at all—unless you express them in a language they can understand.  You can’t be preachy,

but not only that—you can’t express anything in a way

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Katie van Schaijik

On minding our own beeswax and letting the Pope be Pope

Sep. 24, 2013, at 4:34am

We are traveling.  Our plan had been to post about our trip as we go, but so far this has proven too much. We'll try again next week, when we're in Holland and a bit more settled.

Meanwhile, a member wrote in to ask our thoughts about the Pope's interview. I'm hoping Devra will address it. She is much more qualified than I am, having read it in full and having helped translate a book of Cardinal Bergoglio's addresses and sermons. But I can offer a thought in response to the reaction to the interview among so many conservative Catholics.

My thinking centers on an insight from Newman and Wojtlya both—one I find myself pondering more and more in recent years. Newman wrote of the "infinite

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Marie Meaney

The Temptations of Beauty

Sep. 17, 2013, at 3:42am

It seems strange to be talking about beauty as a temptation. Isn’t beauty a ladder to God, a reflection of the good, and a dangerous trap only for those wishing to remain atheists?  The “blue flower” (so termed by the Romantics), which is, among other things, the longing for the re-occurrence of a momentous experience of beauty, became an important step, for example, in C. S. Lewis’ conversion-process. Yet it didn’t speak to him in an obvious way of God, and it was tempting for him to seek that experience again, though it (happily) eluded him.  For the experience of beauty cannot be forced, or artificially created or be obtained by one’s own free will; it comes as a gift, suddenly,

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