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Marie Meaney

Some Reflections on the Spirit of Poverty

Aug. 22 at 10:34am

Not many are called to a voluntary life of absolute poverty such as St Francis of Assisi, or Mother Teresa and her sisters.  However, everybody is called to be in some respect poor with the poor in order to exercise true caritas on which, after all, we will be judged (Christ tells those who fed, clothed or helped him in some way in the poor, that they will go to Heaven,  while those who didn’t, are cast out). How are we supposed to reach the hungry, thirsty, the suffering, the psychologically wounded, and feed their hearts rather than just their bodies, if we are unable to meet them where they are?  The poor, of course, are not merely those who are in material want, but all those who are suffering intensely in some way and are in need of help. Yet, if we feel superior or simply disconnected to them – since we are, for example, not drug-addicts, homeless, depressive or in mourning– then we cannot “be” with them where they are; for “being with them” is at the core of any real help, since it means opening one’s heart to them and to their particular suffering.

Only when we have acknowledged our extreme inner poverty, our brokenness, our being anything but whole, and spiritually speaking in dire need of a doctor, only then are we capable of meeting the poor with a matching spirit of poverty. For we too are poor - though perhaps in a less obvious way - because of our frailties and our sufferings (which in all likelihood will be intense at least at some point in our lives, even if we have been generally lucky). We may not be addicts or homeless or depressive, we may not be stripped of everything nor feel more like a worm than a man (Ps 22:6), but there is not much preventing us from doing so, and certainly not our strength alone (however great that might be). Once we realize this deeply, we are embodying a true spirit of humility without which love cannot exist.

Material poverty on its own does not guarantee a spirit of poverty; misery can also embitter, make angry, rebellious and proud. But if one accepts poverty, as some religious orders do, in order to embody an inner spirit of humility and love, then poverty becomes the road to Heaven.  Then it is capable of touching the hearts of those otherwise crushed by suffering.  The goal is not to glorify poverty for its own sake; indeed, we are called to help the poor to rise from their misery and many religious orders and various organizations try to address their needs. But people, who truly live the spirit of poverty by giving up all riches, express their solidarity with them, and more than that, a folly of love willing to descend into abject misery to be with those who are poor, such as Christ did for all of us.

Since charity is a universal vocation and the spirit of poverty is essential to exercising it, it needs to be present in everybody, also in people who are otherwise very successful and happy in terms of their work, money, health, and family-life. The temptation, if everything goes for the best in the best of all possible worlds (as Pangloss would have said), is to think that one has obviously got it right, while the rest of the world, or most of it, for some reason hasn’t.

Yet only if one unearths one’s brokenness, can one exercise true charity and be true to one’s human vocation. As long as we take ourselves as the measure for others (they are too sensitive, forceful, chaotic, slow, talkative – compared to, well… us), we can be sure that we are still lacking in this spirit of poverty.  Only Christ should be our reference, not we; and He said that we would find Him in those in need. Hence He is especially present to us (even if we are unaware of it) in those who seem to us too sensitive, forceful, chaotic, psychologically unstable etc, all those who appear poor compared to us and our achievements. 

Mother Teresa once said that she had never committed the sin of judging others.[1] Few are those who can say this about themselves! But this shows that she truly was embodying this spirit of poverty, for no brokenness, no sin in another could shock her to the point of judging him. She always saw behind all of this the person whom God profoundly loves, even in the dictators of this world. She knew her own brokenness, and thus no misery was foreign to her.

However, this does not mean the saints did not find other people difficult to deal with and bear. It precisely reveals their sanctity that they were able to do so charitably. Dorothy Day’s diaries are full of her struggles with other people’s irrationality (often due to psychological disorders and much suffering), difficult tempers and lack of personal hygiene. 

It is difficult to acknowledge one’s brokenness, I mean really recognize it; to state in the abstract that we are all sinners and that, yes, we have some weaknesses we are struggling with, which we keep repeating during confession, is still fairly easy for the practicing Catholic. But to be willing to realize the extent of one’s weakness is extremely difficult. For self-righteousness is one of the main vices of the otherwise spiritually awakened, and for good cause. When it rears its ugly head, we are often unaware of; but it is generally at the root of our thinking that this person is simply too difficult to deal with, because of who she is rather than because of who we are. It is a continuous interior battle we need to fight.

Love and awareness of one’s brokenness (otherwise called humility) have to go together in order to exist at all. Love without humility becomes hard and judging. Seeing one’s faults without feeling loved leads to despair; hence we are afraid of acknowledging our brokenness, since we imagine that we are no longer loveable. It takes faith in being loved to be willing to acknowledge one’s faults.

Simone Weil once said that our hearts need to be broken, but that we generally want them to be broken by anything but God. However, only God – one could add – breaks the heart by melting it out of its self-righteousness, and humbling it into acknowledging its weakness. The greatest miracle is not to transform stones into bread, but to transform our heart of stone into a loving one. Then we are truly capable of being poor with the poor.  



[1] Leo Maasburg, Mutter Teresa: Die Wunderbaren Geschichten, München: Pattloch, 2010, p.113.


 

Kate Whittaker Cousino

This is very very timely for me, as my heart is being continually broken, and continually requires me to choose to soften myself further rather than harden myself. Thank you!

#1 - Aug. 22 at 4:31pm | quote

 

Sister Anne Sophie

It was good to read this on the feast day of the Queenship of Mary! God has gifted you Marie with words of understanding and insight! I have been enjoying your writings and Bravo dear one! You are right to see the "Poverty of Spirit" in the midst of what most see as the "Poverty of Money and Posessions"-Blessings-Sister Anne Sophie

#2 - Aug. 22 at 6:28pm | quote

 

Katie van Schaijik

A while back I mentioned Jean Vanier's defining human maturity in one word, "tenderness."  I keep thinking about that. 

Just as you indicate, Kate, we don't get to choose whether to undergo blows. We only get to choose whether we will let them harden us or tenderize us.

At the Charterhouse in Vermont the other day, the Abbot said of his predecessor, Fr. Raphael Diamond (who had become Catholic under the influence of his professor, Dietrich von HIldebrand), "He was the most tender person I have ever met in my life."

#3 - Aug. 23 at 8:53am | quote

Marie Meaney

Katie, I love Vanier's definition of human maturity! The morally alert, awakened person is not enough; and tenderness captures that element of love which shows how soft your heart has become and how capable it therefore is potentially to reach others.

Great point also, Kate, how sufferings give us the choice of either greater hardness of heart or of admitting our weakness and turning to God who alone can melt the heart. For this poverty of spirit, this tender heart, is a gift which one cannot simply will for oneself, though one can certainly desire it.

I'm so struck how often the otherwise morally striving person, when she tries to help, can still cause great pain since she's not "with" the person in her pain. Material help, when one is suffering greatly, can be very painful to accept, if it is lacking in that softness which comes from acknowledging one's own brokenness. Perhaps this is why it is often said that gratitude is rare and difficult; perhaps the problem lies not just with the receiver, but also (and perhaps primarily?) with the giver.

And you, Anne Sophie, certainly live the spirit of poverty in the way you help the sick and dying!

#4 - Aug. 23 at 9:19am | quote

Marie Meaney

So let me put in a plug for sister Anne Sophie Meaney's booklet (one of many) "On the Frontlines" where she describes her interaction with the sick and dying and also tells us a bit of her own story. Yes, she happens to be my dear sister-in-law, but that's not why I am recommending the book which is beautiful and moving! Because of her story of abuse and terrible suffering (she was adopted by my inlaws late in life), she is capable like few others I know of understanding and empathizing with other people's sufferings.

#5 - Aug. 23 at 9:23am | quote

Marie Meaney

I've just started reading a wonderful book on Jean Vanier called "The Miracle, the Message, the Story: Jean Vanier and l'Arche" by Kathryn Spink. Vanier, of course, is also a prime example for being poor with the poor, and being in touch with his own brokenness. Here's a beautiful quote of his, cited on p. 5:

... the whole vision of Jesus is the gradual discovery that the poor are not people whom we have to change from our pedestal and make them like us but people from whom we can drink. That means that the outside poverty and the inside poverty is the same reality to drink from. The presence of God is in our own littleness and poverty, in our need for love and recognition.

And further on:

There is the gulf between the rich and the poor and there is the gulf of our own consciousness, and everything in life is the passage through that divide.

#6 - Aug. 30 at 9:17am | quote

Marie Meaney

And on page 48:

A small point we forget too, is that God cannot stick us together unless we are somewhat in pieces, and those he wants for greater strength in the Church have to be in pieces, in order that clearly, tangibly, immediately and actually it is He that sticks them together."

#7 - Aug. 30 at 9:18am | quote

 

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