Sep. 14 at 8:24pm
Anthony Buono, founder of the online dating site, Ave Maria Singles, and a friend of ours, has just come out with his first book. I love the title: Would You Date You?
My copy came in the mail today. As Anthony knows, I tend to be a rather severe critic of other people's dating theories, so I picked this up with some trepidation. I'd so hate not to be able to endorse something by a friend!
So I'm very happy to be able to report: so far so good. The Forward, by Lino Rulli, is warm and funny and teasing. Proof positive that Anthony can't possibly be guilty of taking himself too seriously (a common failing of authors of advice books).
Then, on page 2, he neatly explains a core feature of personalism:
The reality that you are a person sets you apart from the fact of your human nature, which is collectively shared with the whole human race...
No two persons are the same. A person does not share his or her personhood with any other person. You are uniquely yourself. If you are a person, that means you are able to act, and you are responsible for your actions. God does not judge us collectively. He judges each person individually, based on their individual motives which can only be known to Him.
I call that a very promising beginning!
Gollum too, is a fitting example of addiction.
His 'precious' literally annihilates his personhood--splitting his personality into 2: such that he can no longer say 'me' but only 'we'.
In other words, he is not free to exercise an "I-Thou" relationship of persons, but pitifully, "we-it"
I argue that addiction does precisely this: objectifies the personal dimension of reality, such that everything to the addict can only be viewed in relation to the object, "it". Persons themselves are merely means to the end of possessing "it". It is nothing short of slavery to the "precious"
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