When a man loves a womanThe days are over when God walked with men, But love, which is His image, holds His place. When a man loves a woman, then he knows God’s secret, and the secret of the world.
The Duchess of Padua
May. 29, 2012, at 10:43am
In regard to Katie’s question, “To speak or not to speak” about same sex marriage, it does seem to me that we have to speak up despite the delicacies—and crudities—involved. Otherwise, we abandon the field to the propagandists who are already veritably overrunning us. As was mentioned in the article, we can hardly shield our children (at least not for very long) from these realities in our culture—and even home-schoolers are part of mass society. Eventually, by the teen-age years at the least if not before, they will be exposed to all that goes on in America despite restrictions on TV, movies, etc.
It takes real heroism to speak up against the homosexual lobby. People who do so and …continue reading
May. 23, 2012, at 11:19pm
What word is more overused than “love”? Well, maybe none, but I'll wager “self-esteem” runs a respectable second, especially in America.
Or there was that class my daughter once took in which she was asked to describe herself in a poem. One classmate’s effort began:
"I love me. / I'm cool as can be."
It went on in that vein, and it didn’t get better, either. It became a sort of anti-legend in our house, an archetype of How You Kids Must Not Turn Out.
And yet, there’s clearly such a thing as healthy self-esteem, or …continue reading
May. 23, 2012, at 10:00am
NRO has an article by Kevin Williamson today that exhibits some basic confusions in the SSM debate.
He begins with a bit of Eisenhower lore.
One of my favorite political fables concerns Dwight D. Eisenhower and his tenure as president of Columbia University. The campus was undergoing an expansion, and Ike was presented with two very different plans for laying out new sidewalks. The architects were irreconcilable, each insisting that his plan was the only way to go and that the other guy had it all wrong. Ike, sensible fellow that he was, had grass planted instead, telling the architects to wait a year and see where the students trod paths in the turf, and then to put the sidewalks there. …
May. 21, 2012, at 4:12pm
President Obama's announced support of "same-sex marriage" (SSM) has put the issue in the center of public attention. Articles and blogs on the subject are proliferating all over the internet. It's become the stuff of casual conversation even among home-schooled teenagers. It is practially impossible to keep young children from hearing about homosexuality and asking questions.
This raises a serious dilemma for me, and all of us. On the one hand, the SSM lobby relies on and takes advantage of a natural reluctance on the part of most to think and talk about what homosexuality is. They prefer to keep the discussion focussed on subjective feelings and individual rights: "I love my …continue reading
May. 21, 2012, at 10:21am
A fourth option for dealing with the miseries and pains of life is that of genuine hope. How does this differ from mere optimism? How does is compare to pessimism? Well, it is an attempt to face the evils of life realistically while not succumbing to them as the last word (vs. pessimism); but, in order to do so, hope must break the bounds of just this world of space and time (vs. mere optimism) where “death comes as the end.” Hope must find a genuine foundation on which to acknowledge misery without despair, but rather with a realistic possibility of breaking through to genuine happiness.
That true foundation is ultimately the power and goodness of God; therefore, hope is based on …continue reading
May. 18, 2012, at 12:28pm
This is not a book review. I haven't yet read the new book by one Arlie Russell Hochschild. But I want to address the same subject: the striking trend toward paying strangers to do things once thought too personal to entrust to another: what she calls "outsourcing the self."
Just how personal are these things? That depends. On the more prosaic side, there's the unremarkable delegation of tasks that are too onerous or time-consuming to attend to oneself: you could call it "outsourcing" when an assemblage of villagers would arrange a division of labor to avoid duplication of everyone's efforts. Nothing revolutionary here.
At the other extreme is the futile attempt to pay someone to do …continue reading
May. 15, 2012, at 10:21am
An online friend pointed me to a sobering article in Business Insider on Cardinal George's warnings about the HHS mandate.
George wrote in his column that the "The State was making itself into a Church" and said he longed for "the separation of Church and State" that Americans enjoyed recently, "when the government couldn’t tell us which of our ministries are Catholic and which not."
George compared the Obama's vision of "religious liberty" of the United States to that of the Soviet Union in a passage worth quoting at length:
Liberty of religion is more than freedom of worship. Freedom of worship was guaranteed in the Constitution of the former Soviet Union. You could go to church, if …
May. 14, 2012, at 2:43pm
One of the lines that stays with me from the high-flying years of the charismatic renewal in the '80s came from a homily or a talk by (I think) Fr. Michael Scanlon at FUS. He recounted the day when a fellow-traveler in the renewal asked him, "How are you doing, Father?" He replied, "Pretty well, under the circumstances." Then came the robust retort: "What are you doing under the circumstances?"
It was a great laugh line for spiritual pep talk. And it captures an important personalist truth. We're meant to take charge of ourselves; to master our circumstances, not to be mastered by them. We are self-determining moral agents, not just undergoers-of-experience.
On the other hand, too …continue reading
May. 13, 2012, at 6:58pm
Pessimism is an attempt at an “honest” solution to the problem of the miseries of life. It tries to face squarely the reality of evil, pain, death, change, catastrophe, etc., and then offers a way to shield oneself from these inevitable facts of life by steeling oneself against them, not letting oneself be touched by them, by showing an enduring toughness and self-sufficiency in accepting them. It espouses only a negative definition of happiness, relief from misery, without any positive components. The problem with all this “realism” and “honesty” is the underlying assumption that evil, pain, and misery ultimately win out in life and in being. But is this true? Is it honest? Is it …continue reading
May. 10, 2012, at 9:07pm
A couple of weeks ago, in a post on our member forum, Rhett Segal criticized Søren Kierkegaard for “his categorical rejection of any mixed motives relative to the pursuit of the good. To call for the elimination of any desire for reward or the elimination of any fear of punishment is to deny human nature.”
I just found a great passage in Romano Guardini’s The Lord that confirms and amplifies Rhett’s point.
Guardini notices that whereas Christ often emphasizes the rewards we gain and punishments we avoid by being good, modern ethicists commonly disapprove of such ulterior and mercenary motives. Genuine morality, they insist, does not need to be threatened or beguiled into goodness; it …continue reading
May. 9, 2012, at 10:19pm
Judge not, that you be not judged.... Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?
Don't compare your inside to someone else's outside.
--All over the internet
The first quote needs no introduction. This passage, or at least the "Judge not" part, has got to be every bit as popular with non-Christians as John 3:16 is with Tim Tebow.
The second quote is a piece of pop wisdom I ran into thanks to the always-entertaining Susie Lloyd and liked. (I've gotten far less snobbish in my old age and no longer turn up my nose at wisdom that comes in pop clothing: it's all part of "Diligere veritatem omnem et in omnibus"- …continue reading
May. 9, 2012, at 2:36pm
The other day a friend sent me a message asking if I'd be interested in reviewing a book she's just published. I told her I was scared I would hate it, which would put me in a dilemma. I'm a critic by nature and vocation. I can't dissemble. And I'm afraid my honest impressions would discourage her in her work.
She laughed and assured me that she finds private criticism helpful. Then she sent me the book. It came in the mail just now.
As I held it, disliking the cover art, it occurred to me: Wait a sec. "Private criticism"? Did she mean (perhaps unconsciously) to bind me not to say anything in public?
Maybe she didn't mean to do that at all, but it's a notion I come across …continue reading
May. 8, 2012, at 10:02pm
This Israeli movie has charmed my personalist socks off. It now holds a coveted place on my list of top ten fabulous foreign films. Jules and I heard about it from friend Scott Johnston and watched it together the other night.
Points I loved:
- How universal human themes come through in the very peculiarity and strangeness (to us) of orthodox Jewish culture. This is more proof (because we keep needing it) that hings don't become more "universal" when they're render more generic and unexceptional. On the contrary.
- How raw and real the characters are in their expression of their emotions and in their relationships with each other, and with God. Nothing theoretical or artificial …continue reading
May. 7, 2012, at 11:18am
Another way of trying to deal with the miseries of life involves an attitude that may be termed “earthly optimism.” It some ways it is a more formalized type of escapism, but now developed into theory of life, either on a popular or on a more sophisticated intellectual level.
On the popular level, we might term this a “Pollyanna” attitude, though I don’t mean thereby to make a judgment about Disney’s 1960 movie of the same name. (Like every other red-blooded American 10-to-15-year-old male of my generation, I fell deeply in love with Hayley Mills after seeing that movie, rivaling even my devotion to Annette Funicello. So I do not mean to tread on anyone’s sacred memories here!) …continue reading
May. 7, 2012, at 8:59am
Last summer I became engrossed in the TV show Hoarders. I'd watch it with a mixture of horrified fascination and immense pity. What an unbelievable condition! How sad and bizarre!
This morning it occurred to me to think that hoarders have a gift to offer. They give outward display of an inward condition of the soul afflicting maybe most of us.
Hoarders' lives are gradually overwhelmed by their things. When a room becomes uninhabitable because it's filled with trash, they stop using it. Eventually their living space is reduced to narrow pathways between piles of junk.
Isn't this just the state so many of our souls are in? Don't we let junk pile up? — sins, bad memories, wounds, lies, …continue reading
May. 3, 2012, at 1:59am
Today, I'd like to open a can of worms. I hope we'll all still be on speaking terms by the time we're done. But they're important worms.
Last week, I tried to articulate a more personalist take on pronatalism--not, of course, that everyone must have as many children as biologically possible (cf. Catholic Teaching 101), but rather that we shouldn't go around blithely judging that this one or that one should never have been born.
I stand by everything I said about the value of those who happen to be their parents' umpteenth-born, or poor, or don't seem likely to offer the world a lot of entertainment value or marketable skills. Happy pictures of my own very jolly eighth child, and the …continue reading
May. 2, 2012, at 5:52pm
One of the students in my coursthip class (though I feel funny referring to him that way, since he's older and wiser than I am) made a great personalist observation yesterday. After class, the discussion ranged over the subject of the cultural epidemic of undermotivated men. Frank noted that it used to be the case that sons were expected to take up their father's profession, regardless of their interests and aptitudes. Realizing that that wasn't quite adequate to the mystery of individuality, more recent generations of fathers have instead taught their children, "You can be anything you want to be." But this has led to a widespread problem of aimlessness. Kierkegaard called it the …continue reading
Apr. 29, 2012, at 4:18pm
One technique for handling life’s pains and miseries is simply to run from them, to try to distract oneself from the dark side of life and thus not really face the problem. This is, admittedly, not really even an attempt at a “solution” or an answer, but it can allow the individual to go on functioning day-to-day in practical terms.
This can be done with drugs or alcohol, trying to blot out the pain or threat and blissfully overcome it with the aid of artificial stimulants. Another version of this would be trying to “drown one’s sorrows” in the face a particular source of unhappiness or a general weariness or disgust with life. This is often the theme of country songs, e.g. Hank William’s …continue reading
Apr. 26, 2012, at 9:25am
Why eight children?
Because we're personalists.
Let me explain.
After all, with Earth Day just past, our family might strike even sympathetic people as too much of a good thing (and less sympathetic ones as sheer insanity).
But to us, as personalists, the main thing about our eighth child, Gabe,
is not: "Oh, no! Eight! Too high a number!"
Likewise, we utterly miss the point about little Danica Camacho (whose name means "morning star")
if we say "Oh, no! Seven billion! WAY too high a number!"
(Danica's mother clearly knows better: you can see it in her eyes.)
Since persons are not things, you can count them, but you can't quantify them. Since they are not products, you are deeply …continue reading
Apr. 25, 2012, at 3:55pm
Continuing our thoughts on how to experientially grasp or get a hold of this distinction between the transcendent and the practical in life, we will look at Josef Pieper’s next three examples of a transcendent perspective: love, death, and beauty. As mentioned, this is from his book Leisure, the Basis of Culture.
(4) Love is certainly an experience that breaks through and revises our carefully laid out plans for ourselves. It gives us new priorities and opens up new levels of our own life and being. To quote a beautiful section from Von Hildebrand’s The Nature of Love:
In every intense and complete love a person undergoes a certain awakening. I begin to live more authentically; a …