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Devra Torres

Joined: Feb. 26, 2012

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Roman Catholic of Jewish background; master of philosophy turned homeschooling mother of eight. Studied at the Thomas More College of Liberal Arts and later at the International Academy of Philosophy in Liechtenstein. Happily married to Max Torres; happily settled, God willing, in unexotic Ann Arbor, Michigan after stints in Israel, Rome, Liechtenstein, and Barcelona. Ready to emerge from intellectual semi-hibernation with the impending maturity of my littlest boy, who has now attained the ripe old age of four.


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Social Media and the Crocodile in the Bedroom

May. 21 at 8:38am | Comments: 0

One of my favorite books is Fables, by the delightful Arnold Lobel.  (If you have children, don’t miss his “Frog and Toad” series.)  One chapter is called “The Crocodile in the Bedroom.” It goes like this (bear with me--the personalist angle will become evident shortly): A Crocodile became increasingly fond of the wallpaper in his bedroom. He stared at it for hours and hours. "Just look at all those neat and...

My Personalist Mother

May. 12 at 6:41pm | Comments: 2 | Most recent comment: May. 15 at 7:22pm

Once in a while, my weekly deadline finds me floundering around, vainly trying to wrestle some complex metaphysical truth down to 800 words or so.  This time it was a centuries-old misunderstanding about the hypostatic union.  I was having about as much success as you might expect. Well, the hypostatic union will have to wait.  Having remembered Mother’s Day, and what a personalist mother I have, I’ve decided to write about her instead (here...

Beyond Biology

May. 3 at 4:05pm | Comments: 3 | Most recent comment: May. 8 at 4:52am

Home is the place where, when you have to go there, they have to take you in. --Robert Frost, "Death of the Hired Man" Some people hear this as an insult to home and hearth (and I see what they mean), but I think it captures something.  There’s something about family—which is pretty much synonymous with “home” here—that inspires the invention of counterfeits.  I heard an ad the other day...

Reductionism and Other Mental Illnesses

Apr. 26 at 3:05pm | Comments: 4 | Most recent comment: Apr. 28 at 12:27pm

Lately I've run into some exceptionally interesting articles on mental health (by John Janaro  Steve Gershom and Gregory Popcak). It occurs to me how closely related to personalism this subject is.  In the quest to “become who you are” (not somebody else, and not some lesser version of yourself)—in the struggle to sort through all the bogus and genuine paths to fulfillment and maturity, where exactly do mental illness and its treatment fit...

Worse than a Nanny State

Apr. 18 at 9:30pm | Comments: 5 | Most recent comment: Apr. 26 at 3:15pm

To say that fiscal policy is not my forte is—let’s put it nicely— an understatement.  (In fact, I chose this graph because it was so pretty.)  But there is an important personalist point to be made about it anyway, and maybe I can express it in a way that other liberal-arts types can understand. Many labor under a perceived conflict between taking seriously the Church’s concern for the poor, on the...


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Re: My Personalist Mother

May. 15 at 7:22pm | see this comment in context

Well...I think it must have been somebody else.  It sounds like a different style than my mother's.  Also, my mother read the piece and thanked me for "making up all those nice virtues" for her.  It is true that my father would make pizza every Sunday night, so she didn't actually make a home-cooked meal every single day for fifty years, but the pizza had starch, vegetables and meat on it, so I figure that falls under poetic license.  

She did respect us all as persons in a way I gradually realized was very unusual.  I had friends whose parents let them express their freedom any way they wanted, because (in some ways) that was simpler for the grownups. I had other friends whose parents believed in objective right and wrong but micromanaged their lives and tastes down to the last detail.  I'm sure my mother would disagree, but I think she managed a good balancing act.

Re: Overcoming Practical Pessimism

May. 11 at 11:19am | see this comment in context

Richard, I'm very sorry, and have added an attribution within the post.  I've checked out more of your photos at the address you link to--here--and was very struck by the beauty and variety of your work.  

Re: Tenderness and maturity

May. 7 at 6:07pm | see this comment in context

Katie, this is great--I'm just working on a post about a book by Fr. Michel Esparza (author of Self-Esteem Without Selfishness) which touches on the same subject, with many references to von Hildebrand's The Heart.  As Esparza says:

In the Gospels, we see that Jesus avoids sentimentalism as well as insensitivity [or insensibility].  His affective dimension is free of any egotism or superficiality.   His affections are detached, but not therefore any less intense than our own.

He quotes von Hildebrand on how Jesus' "transfigured affectivity" is very different from what we experience on the natural level, but that the difference is not that He is less tender or affectionate.  

There's been so much theological emphasis on keeping emotions "under control"--and it fits in with everyone's experience of the trouble we get into when we fail to do so--that lots of people, when they try to imagine Jesus as "perfect man" end up thinking that He either has no affections or else has them so successfully "controlled" that there's no evidence of them.

I'm looking forward to listening to Jules' class--things promise to slow down here in a few days and then I get to catch up.

Re: Self-Esteem Without Selfishness: Increasing Your Capacity for Love

May. 7 at 4:45pm | see this comment in context

Yes, self-esteem (as the term is usually used) is something very superficial; self-acceptance is something more solid, and more rare.  Fr. Michel, would you say that self-acceptance can be achieved naturally--on the basis of common sense and a robust psychological constitution, maybe--and rightly ordered self-love is something supernatural, depending on the revelation of God's love for us?

Re: Beyond Biology

May. 7 at 4:28pm | see this comment in context

I think decades of propoganda have contributed to a lot of muddle-mindedness.  On the one hand, fathers are ridiculed as useless and unnecessary.  On the other, women are nurturing goddesses, even though fertility is treated as a disease (at least until infertility appears as an imposition instead of a choice).  I think a lot of women end up honestly believing that a child with a donor-"father" isn't being deprived of anything essential.

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