Joined: Dec. 10, 2012


Work: Quality Assurance Analyst (Wells Fargo)
Hobbies: Sports, Music (writing/playing), widdling/chiseling/sculpting/staining, writing/reading
Family: Me, wife (Jacqueline) and son (Joshua)
Locations: Saint Paul, MN (current); Born in Boulder, Colorado; served in OH, and MI (esp. Detroit)

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Active Collaboration (CDF)

Oct. 23 at 12:04pm | Comments: 3 | Most recent comment: Oct. 27 at 11:17am

A variety of terms have been used by Scripture scholars, philosophers, and theologians in the last century to describe the interpersonal dynamic within marriage of “the sweet yoke of harmony” between husband and wife.  Surprisingly, not all of these terms carry equal weight with the Church.  Indeed, one is conclusively erroneous: 1)      Unity-Subordination (Clark) 2)      Mutual Subordination (Grabowski) 3)      Active Collaboration (Ratzinger) 4) ...

The “Phenomena of Machismo” as identified in Instrumentum Laboris: prelim Doc for Synod on Family

Oct. 13 at 1:32pm | Comments: 1 | Most recent comment: Oct. 13 at 2:00pm

In the past twenty years or so, many works concerning the renewal of manliness have been published by social scientists, pop psychologists, etc.  Wild at Heart[1] and “Wimps and Barbarians”[2] rank among the more well-known titles, the former’s popularity reaching to nearly all corners of Christian churches in the United States.  Surprisingly, however, the loss of manliness is not listed in the Bishops’ document as one of the problems for marriage and family,...

Further Lessons from Dubay’s Authenticity:  Two ways of ‘knowing’

Sep. 19 at 3:20pm | Comments: 15 | Most recent comment: Sep. 22 at 4:43pm

English lacks the differentiation of the word ‘know’ like that of ‘saber’ and ‘conocer’ of Spanish.  In Spanish, ‘saber’ refers to a knowledge of places, things, and ideas, whereas, ‘conocer’ refers to a familiarity with persons.  I make mention of this differentiation in Spanish to illustrate Dubay’s same dichotomy in his Authenticity: We may distinguish two types of knowing: one is particular, specific, thing-centered, while the...

That Man is You!  In line with JPII or not?

Sep. 18 at 11:00am | Comments: 26 | Most recent comment: Sep. 19 at 4:33pm

JPII and TMIY *Introductory note: Steve Bollman and Steve Clark both graduated from Notre Dame at different times and have had no interaction.  Yet, they share very similar view of male leadership (though Bollman claims his influence is JPII).  I'm interested in what the Personalist Project says of Bollman's ministry.  Here are links to further resources:,  (a video of Steve presenting to a parish in CO,...

Dr. John Grabowski on Ephesians 5

Sep. 9 at 11:01am | Comments: 35 | Most recent comment: Sep. 10 at 10:25am

St. Paul’s teaching on subordination has met with considerable public backlash since the late 19th and early 20th centuries. Questions abound as to whether the teaching itself is even based on the message of Jesus, or on some abstractions of Judaic or Hellenistic practices of running a household. Dr. John Grabowski does well to point out the differences between non-Christian cultures’ approach to marriage versus the way the early Church lived out marriage in the light...

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Re: Active Collaboration (CDF)

Oct. 27 at 11:17am | see this comment in context

Changes made: "Women, with good reason, react strongly against it"

&  "I have with great certainty discovered precise english terminology found within the CDF’s 2004 document dealing with the interrelationships of men and women in the Church and in the world"

Thank you!

Re: Further Lessons from Dubay’s Authenticity: Two ways of ‘knowing’

Sep. 22 at 4:32pm | see this comment in context

Katie van Schaijik, Sep. 22 at 2:45pm

Can you see why it's problematic though, Sam?

I've also come across this situation many times: Christian men waxing eloquent on the dignity of homemaking and motherhood (heaping compliments on women, as they see it), and then following up with an explanation of how that means that women don't need to go to college, or shouldn't work outside the home.

 Yes, I see where assigning roles along these lines is problematic, but I didn't do that--and I believe you are reading too much into my text.  I provided the Fulton Sheen quote above to illustrate that women are not limited to the domestic sphere, but that their happiness lies in some direct work with persons (not to say that men's happiness doesn't either--which I note)

Re: Further Lessons from Dubay’s Authenticity: Two ways of ‘knowing’

Sep. 22 at 3:24pm | see this comment in context

Kate Whittaker Cousino, Sep. 22 at 3:17pm

just as everyone has the ability to starve and silence that empathy, and that a person can foster the traits and virtues they find themselves lacking.

 Kate, I try to identify 2 reasons in the post why men do not have the attention/heart for persons like women.  I think it's a combination of hardwiring and social conditioning.  But I also try to emphasize that men will not get out of this life wihtout "wake up calls" so to speak to personal reality: funerals, marriages, birth of children, etc.

Re: Further Lessons from Dubay’s Authenticity: Two ways of ‘knowing’

Sep. 22 at 3:20pm | see this comment in context


Love, Marriage and Children by Bishop Fulton J. Sheen the chapter entitled “Does a business career harden a woman?” 

Woman, inasmuch as she is dedicated to life and is a symbol of rebirth and renewal, is personal. woman is concerned with love and concrete reality… Her knowledge comes through identification and co-naturality with others.  A woman becomes a spiritual mother when she holds out her hand to the weak and the abandoned.  …That’s why professions like doctor, nurse, social worker and teacher are not professions in the strict sense that they are for men, but are expressions of spiritual motherhood.  If she is denied, or denies herself the fulfillment of this spiritual mission of giving and surrendering herself to others, she has a far deeper sense of inadequacy and emptiness than a man can have, because of the greater depths of her fountain of love.  The frustrated and unhappy women in the world today are so not because of the economic and political and social world in which they move but because of themselves.  Woman has forgotten her nature, and she has forgotten that she is heaven’s instrument on earth.  Woman, to be happy, must be a co-worker to the Divine

Re: Further Lessons from Dubay’s Authenticity: Two ways of ‘knowing’

Sep. 22 at 2:49pm | see this comment in context

Furthermore, and I think Dubay would agree with Stein, reason and emotions are being read into my points.  I am not separating reason from emotion in the post.

The assumption made by those who comment is that emotion is tied to persons and reason is tied to "impersons".  That's not my point--I know very well that women and men have an equal capacity for reason and emotion.  My point is that women, in the word's of stein, have an innate attention/heart for the person, whereas men must learn this attention (or be converted, etc.)

The words 'saber' and 'conocer' illustrate this very well.  They do not imply more emotion for 'conocer' or more reason for 'saber'...

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